How do you survive working for a horrible boss?

May 13, 2019

First of all, take comfort in the fact that you are not alone! All of us have had, or will have the worst boss ever at some point in our careers. The question is: how are you going to handle it? Working for a difficult person is never easy -- it takes a lot of effort and brain power, it zaps your energy and can even make you feel queasy in your stomach. But there are 3 simple things you can do that might help you to have less dread when you open your eyes in the morning and remember it's a workday.

1. Don't take it personally.

Whatever your bad boss says or does, keep in mind that he (or she) is dealing with his own level of stress (probably from HIS boss) and he's trying to meet his goals the best way he knows how. It's probably not the best way, but he thinks he's doing the right thing -- however misguided it might be. Knowing that his behavior doesn't come from a place of malice, might help you feel more compassion towards your boss as a fallible human. And that will make you feel better than thinking of him as a horrible, blood-sucking vampire.

2. Focus on the things you can control.

Do your job to the best of your ability. While you can't control his actions or behavior, you can control yours! So make the most of it. And if you can anticipate your boss' needs and make his life a little easier by going beyond your assignment, you may be pleasantly surprised if/when he thanks you.

3. Remember, this ain't the only gig in town.

When you're deep in the struggle with a bad boss, you might feel trapped. You don't want to deal with these issues everyday, but the fear of leaving can be just as overwhelming. Remember this: your choice is the job you're in now, or ALL THE OTHER JOBS THAT EXIST ON THE PLANET. I'm serious. Just because you feel trapped doesn't make it true. Get out there and start exploring your options. Having an inteview or two might just help you feel good enough about yourself and your options that you can stick it out and see what happens.

In the meantime, do some things to take extra good care of yourself like going to a yoga class (good for mind and body), get a massage (if you like strangers touching you) or take a day trip with your Sweetheart on Saturday to change your scenery and recharge your batteries. As tough as this situation is now, bear in mind it is temporary. Change is a constant so you can count on it. Trust me. I've been there.