Are men worse than women at work? Jennifer's experience may sound familiar.

August 1, 2018

Do you feel like the women in your workplace treat you better, or worse than the fellas? Some colleagues are very supportive while others might try to elevate themselves in front of the boss by throwing you under the bus, every chance they get.

Jennifer Aniston said in a new interview with InStyle that is hasn't always been the guys making things harder for her.

“I’ve definitely had some sloppy moves made on me by other actors, and I handled it by walking away. I’ve never had anyone in a position of power make me feel uncomfortable and leverage that over me. In my personal experience, I’ve been treated worse verbally and energetically by some women in this industry.”

Verbally and energetically. That's descriptive because we've all had that feeling the colleague we're dealing with is sending us some not so great vibes but it's a hard thing to express and still sound credible sometimes. But I don't think this kind of behavior is limited to the entertainment industry. I've seen it in the legal, consumer products, consulting and publishing industries.

I can recall some women being really hard on younger women trying to come up behind them in the workplace. Where you'd think these experienced women would give them the helping hand that wasn't there for them, instead their attitudes are unsympathetic -- 'Nobody helped me, so why should I help them?' That's a big miss. Being a mentor or support to someone just starting out can create long lasting loyalty.

In my experience, gender is not an indicator of who will be a better boss or colleague. Haven't you found that if someone is a good leader, or co-worker, they're good because that's a demonstration of who they are and what they've learned. If someone treats you without respect, they haven't learned how much more successful they could be by treating people well. And some lessons go unlearned.

You can chance the dynamic in your own workplace by being supportive wherever you can. It will pay dividends with how people in the office regard and talk about you when you're not around.