Melinda Gates reveals the secret to her 25 year marriage

April 23, 2019

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Melinda Gates is promoting a new book she wrote called The Moment of Lift: How Empowering Women Changes the World and marked an important milestone in January of this year -- her 25th wedding anniversary.

When asked about it she started to laugh and said, "I mean, it’s funny, we’ve just gotten to a point in life where Bill and I can both laugh about more things. And, believe me, I can remember some days that were so incredibly hard in our marriage where you thought, "Can I do this?"'

Being married to someone who's incredibly focused on their work has to be difficult and Melinda credits her patience for helping her maintain the marriage. Other than that she says that after training Bill a little, he's actually fairly easy to live with.

There was one time a few years ago when she got really mad at Bill because instead of helping her with the kids he was reading a book on Winston Churchill. And she writes in her book about how lonely she felt after her first baby was born and had to fight to gain equal footing with her husband. Melinda knew it was important for her partner to view her as equal and not lesser. No doubt something a lot of women married to men who love their careers have felt.

But it sounds like they have a lot in common and that has got to help. She says, 'When I married Bill, I got a reading partner for life. We just finished "A Gentleman in Moscow," which we read while celebrating our 25th anniversary. I realize we’re a bit behind on this one, but if you haven’t read it yet, we highly recommend it.' 

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